The Introduction

This is weird, me introducing myself. I normally write to myself in my journals, not to an audience so bear with me, please. I’m actually lost and scared right now, but I know I am being guided and all will be well.

Most of you know me as the “go-to friend” the friend that gives great advice, that holds all the secrets, a safe space, someone even called me their own personal "Iyanla Fix-My Life". Recently one friend informed me that although they feel they can confide in me heavily and frequently, they often leave some details out or dim the story down. Not because of the fear of judgment from me, but fear that because I’m “so good” and I “have it all together” how could I possibly be friends with a person as "damaged" or as "sinful" as them.

I just want to say first and foremost I find so much joy in helping people with their problems, in just being that person to listen, to provide a different outlook, and to just be there for support. I am now realizing that the way I help most of my friends is by often relating to them in a similar situation I had and allowing them to see how I managed and overcame it. I love you guys so much and I never want y’all to feel as if y’all are alone or can’t talk to anyone. I promise nothing but support and love will ever come from me, never judgment, shame or condemnation in a way that is not loving or understanding.

I am not perfect. Very much far from it. Behind closed doors, I am a total wreck and it’s really by the grace of God that I am able to wake up every day and put a smile on my face. Growing up in my household, I was told to never let anyone know what was going on in your private or family life. Till now this is one of my biggest struggles, ironically enough I hate talking about my own problems or allowing anyone in to support or help me through hard times when needed. This right here is a work in progress for me and I truly appreciate everyone that is still by my side when I try to push them away.

I will be talking about things that never in my life did I think that I would share with my family let alone strangers. Although I am strong, please remember to be kind. You never know what someone is going through and how your words will affect them.

Thank you so much for all your love and support.